Slow down!

Crash!!! There it lay on the floor shattered. In spite of my best effort to catch my lovely little precious memory figurine that I had received as a gift it fell through my hand. In my rush to dust the shelf where it was I had knocked it over.


“Slow down” I whispered to myself as I looked sadly at the broken pieces at my feet. I felt upset with myself because I knew I could not put it back together again even if I tried. I also knew that it could have been avoided if I had simply slowed down and paid more attention to what I was doing.

Sometimes life itself seems to be a race to get from one stage to another. One of the ways many young ladies often rush their lives is getting involved in boyfriend/girlfriend relationships before time. This often leads to them becoming sexually active at a young age. Popular television shows, magazines, music, romance novels etc. seem to promote this “race” to grow up.

In the majority of the television shows for teens, most of the leading characters are involved in relationships where there is either a lot of making out, or actual sexual intercourse involved. In fact even the “family shows” seem to endorse this. On Seventh Heaven for example, one of the main characters sixteen-year old Ruthie Camden has a boyfriend whom she frequently makes out with and is battling with whether or not to go further.

Like Ruthie Camden, you may feel like being a teenager or being involved in a relationship makes you an adult but it doesn’t. You’re still a girl, an adolescent, a young woman… a relationship does not make you an adult. It is unfortunate, that a teen remaining sexually pure seems like such an old-fashioned view in today’s modern society. However this should not make you feel abnormal. Just because it seems as if everyone is doing it doesn’t make it right. God’s ultimate plan for sex is still within the bounds of marriage.

When you rush headlong into relationships you may find, your dreams shattered and your heart broken into tiny little pieces just like my precious memory figurine. But before that happens I’d like to say to you as a friend, an older sister if you will, slow down!!! The fact of the matter is this, if you live long enough there’s no exception, you will become an adult. Why rush? Enjoy this moment in time, I promise you life will not pass you by if you decide to simply slow down and enjoy being a teen without the drama of a grown up relationship.

March/May 07 GT

I've finally finished the new issue of Girl Talk which should have been completed March 1. I've been terrible at meeting my own deadlines lately but hopefully I'll get back to my normal "on time self" soon. I'll be posting a few items from the magazine over the next few days including an interview with a very inspiring young lady, Miss Aldeka LaRoda.

You are not here by chance

And the word of the Lord came unto me saying, Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart, I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.Jeremiah 1:4-5

The above scripture goes out to everyone who has ever had questions about their reason for being upon this Earth. Just as Jeremiah was predestined to be born, in the time that he was so were you. You are here because God predestined it to be so and because He has a purpose for your life. Your destiny was planned before you even came into being. Nevertheless, it’s up to you to ensure that the road to the destiny God has planned for you is the one you end up on.

Although God has a destiny mapped out for you it’s still up to you whether or not it comes to pass. God cannot force you to choose the life that He has planned for you, although He’s probably puzzled as to why you wouldn’t want to. However, He has given you the freedom to choose. What choice will you make? I offer Christ to you my brother, I offer Christ to you my sister… He’s changed my life and I know he can do the same for you. God loves you! He gave his best for you and he wants you to live a life that is committed unto him. Every success that you have achieved in this life you achieved as a result of God’s blessing. But I dare say that no matter how successful you are your life is empty if God is not a part of it.

Fulfilling your ultimate destiny depends on your relationship with God and having him as a part of your life. It’s in Christ alone that you will find true success, true peace and true joy.

Some of you may feel as if your life has no meaning or value. You may feel a sense of emptiness within and you may be trying to fill that void by doing all the wrong things. But I say to you that no matter what you do you’ll still be empty inside unless you go to the one source that can fill the emptiness within your heart and bring true meaning and value to your life. That source is the Lord Jesus Christ. Don’t put it off for a later date. The time is now. Ask Jesus to forgive you of your sins, come into your heart and make you a new person. The bible says Now is the acceptable time behold now is the day of salvation. You were not promised tomorrow, today is all that you have what are you going to do with it?

My friend all God is asking you to do is to allow Him into your life and in return He’ll give you so much more. In return He’ll give you joy beyond measure. In return He’ll give you peace in the midst of any situation you may go through. In return He’ll be the parent that will never forsake you. In return He’ll be the best friend that will never betray you.

Jeremiah 29:11 says, for I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future…As you can see God has great plans for your life. He wants you to have a bright future, a tomorrow that has more joys than you can imagine. But as I said before, the choice is yours, your destiny awaits… will you choose the life that God has predestined for you or are you going to choose another way?


This is a short devotion I gave on a Morning Devotion radio program in September 2003.

There’s power in belief

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Eleanor Roosevelt



As I watched American Idol this season (okay guilty as charged) I was taken aback by the comment the “dreaded” Simon made to Camille, one of the contestants. His comment to her was that she lacked self-esteem and until she really believed that she deserved to be in the competition she would not succeed.

I found this totally surprising because after beating out thousands of contestants to make it into the top twelve you’d think she’d be totally confident in her abilities. Unfortunately, this was not so. A few weeks later Camille became the fourth contestant to be voted of the show. That night even before her name was called she had defeat written all over her. She just couldn't find that self-confidence that she so desperately needed.

Interesting enough, the same night Simon made the comment to Camille he told Jennifer, another contestant that she had gone as far as she could go in the competition. He didn’t even believe she could improve. Jennifer however, did not allow Simon’s comment to become her belief. Week after week she tried to improve her performance and the same night that Camille sang her last song Simon told Jennifer that she had proved him wrong. She was also told that she had given the best performance that night.

Two young ladies, same competition, same opportunity to succeed but one had something extra, belief in herself and in her dream.

Jennifer Hudson nevertheless, did not win the contest. She was the sixth person voted off. But, she was voted of to the dismay of all the judges, even the “dreaded Simon.” Her confidence and belief combined with her talent had taken her further than had been predicted.

What do you believe about yourself? Do you believe that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you? Or, do you think that everyone else is better than you? If you do you need to change that thinking and BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!

Here’s something I wrote just for you!

Believe in yourself,

Believe in your dreams

Believe that you CAN succeed!

Believe that if you work hard

There’s nothing you can’t do.

There’s power in belief young lady,

Believe that God will make your dreams come true.

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I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me” Philippians 4:13

Girl Talk Magazine June/August 2004

Vol. 5 Issue #1


I wrote this article for GT magazine two years ago and I thought tonight, when Jennifer Hudson is up for the prestigious Oscar, would be an appropriate time to share it again. There is definitely power in belief!

The Beauty of Innocence... Forming Friendships

“This was the bestest day ever!

These spontaneous words came from my eight-year-old niece after I’d taken her and an eight-year-old cousin out for the day. The two of them had met briefly before but had never spent anytime together until that day. However by the end of the day they were fast friends.

I wondered what it was that cause children to form friendships so quickly. Then it came to me; it’s their innocence. When children meet each other they are not thinking, “Is she trustworthy? Does she talk a lot? Is she honest…? Or the many other thoughts that come to mind when we form friendships as teens and adults. They simply think, “you’re nice, fun etc. I like you, let’s be friends.

Children are also quick to forgive. I had to brake up a few little squabbles between my niece and cousin during the day but within five minutes they were friends again.

I have found some of the most beautiful expressions of innocence as I watch children develop friendships. Children in their innocence bring friendship down to the simplest form. Is it any wonder Jesus said in his word, "Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven? Matt 18:3 NIV

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Let Your Light Shine Part 4

Both girls grew quiet and reflective. They began to realize the importance of light, not a flashlight a candle or a lamp but the inner light that comes from knowing Jesus Christ. They realized that the light that shone from within them could lead someone to choose a better path in life.

How do I let my light shine, you may want to know. Well there are several ways in which you can let your light shine.

Let your light shine by being proud of who you are and the light that is within you. Whatever you are ashamed of you will hide away. You can relate this back to your relationship with God. If you are too intimidated by your friends to let them know that you are a Christian then you will simply try to blend in with them and try to put Jesus into a neat little box in your heart that you only bring out when you're alone. However, your relationship with him should be something that you're proud off, something that you want to show off to the world.

In Matthew 5:14-16 (NIV) Jesus said,
14 "You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.

As Christians God is expecting us to let our light shine. The job of light is to defeat darkness so when you try to hide your light away and try to fit in with your friends you're really not being true to who you are. God didn't call you to blend in, he called you to stand out, to be a true witness for him to win souls for his kingdom.

Let your light shine by setting boundaries for yourself and sticking to them no matter what pressures and temptation you're faced with. As a teenager, I always had set boundaries for myself (along with my parents many rules and regulations). I decided that there were certain things that I was not going to do no matter who was doing it. Consequently, when I was faced with temptation to do something like take a drink for example, it wasn't as difficult to say no as it would have been had I not already made up my mind it was simply something I was not going to do.

Let your light shine by living an exemplary life before your peers and others. This goes back to setting boundaries for yourself. There may be times your peers may pressure you or expect you join them in something that goes against your personal value system. However, if you consistently say no and stand your ground they will respect you for sticking to your beliefs. They may even want to know what it is that makes you different... perfect opportunity to witness.

Remember also that in verse 16 Jesus said:
In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.

As I emphasized during this series, actions often speak louder than words. So I encourage you to think of some good deeds that you can do that will help draw the people around you who may not know Jesus Christ as lord and savior of their life closer to Him. I remember in high school a classmate taking her free time to help tutor me in Accounting which thanks to her I passed with a pretty decent grade. I also remember another classmate whose Christian walk I was impressed with. I remember that she invited me to a Christian Student Movement meeting and it was there that I accepted Jesus as Lord.

Remember, some people may never enter the doors of a church so their only encounter with Jesus may be through you. Make it a positive one. Take care of the light that is within you. Stay connected to the source Jesus Christ. Take time out of your busy schedule to fast, pray and stay in the word.

Let Your Light Shine Part 3

Matthew 5:16
Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.


It seem that no sooner that the words came out of Alicia’s mouth that she saw a bright, steady light in the distance. As the light came closer towards her she heard a voice calling her name...I’m so glad to see you Alicia cried as she hugged them, thank God you had a light because my batteries are dead.

The light you burn is not just for you, your light gives others hope.

In the story Alicia’s light went out. However, K’deidra had a light and because she let her light shine she was able to lead Alicia to safety. It was K’deidra’s light but at that time Alicia needed it more than she did.

I have had more than one experience in my life where I needed someone else light to guide me, to give me hope. None comes to mind so much as a few months ago when my beloved mother died. I was devastated and after only one week off, I had to face a class of 26 fourth graders. I would have been totally unable to cope had it not been for one of my colleagues stepping in. She took over everything except my classroom duties. She made sure all of my copies were made, she did most of the final exams for the grade level, she even spoke to my students when their behavior was more than I could handle. Everything she could do to assist me she did, without ever having to be asked or even expecting thanks. This went on for at least two months until I slowly began to come out of my grief stricken state.

At that time my friend didn't try to help me with a lot of comforting words, that wasn't what I really needed at that time. I knew my mom was home with Jesus, but I was missing her here on earth. My friend let her light shine by relieving me of whatever burdens she could so I was able to do what I had to do. At that time I needed the light that she let shine into my life. It ministered to me, soothe me and let me know that someone cared.

This is what God requires of us as Christians. We are to be an example of Jesus Christ here on earth not just by our words but by our deeds as well. We do this by letting our light shine where ever there is a need and trying to influence the world around us in a positive way while not allowing ourselves to be influenced in a negative way. As the world watches us and sees the life that we are living then it will draw them to Jesus Christ.

Stay tuned for part 4

introduction
part 1
Part 2