June 1, 2010 I published the last issue (at least for a while) of Girl Talk my teen girl magazine. Since this blog was originally designed for the purpose of publishing weekly devotions for the magazine and later the magazine itself I decided to create another blog that isn’t connected to Girl Talk.

I’ll probably still publish book reviews or other items here now and again but you’ll more often find me at Trusting Him with Today. I hope you’ll stop by

Jun 27, 2008

Helping at Home

The Woman You’re Becoming part II

My niece Chakara recently spent the weekend with me and one of the things I noticed was how helpful she was. She willingly helped me prepare breakfast and clean up afterward. She was also willing to assist me with whatever chores I was doing (during commercials of course)

Why is it that most little girls love to assist with cleaning, cooking, baking and anything that helps to the point that they sometimes get in the way but, fast forward a few years to when they become teenagers the same work that they nagged Mommy or Auntie to allow them to assist with now becomes drudgery? It’s now something to complain about and sulk over.

A girl should have her full share of responsibility in the home. She should go about her work willingly, not as if it were an irksome duty which she was ill-disposed to perform.
Mable Hale, Beautiful Girlhood page 121

Girlhood years are supposed to prepares you for womanhood. The assistance you give at home during that time between girlhood and womanhood prepares you for when you are on your own, whether it’s your dorm room at college, your first apartment or when you have a home and family of your own. The ability to cook and clean doesn’t suddenly appear when you become an adult. It is developed during your girlhood and teenage years.

When I was growing up and I didn’t want to do my chores, my mother would always start in on me, “Girl, how you going to make it when you have your own house? If you don’t learn how to clean, people won’t be able to get into your house because the dirt will meet them at the door.”(Yep, my mother was not known for mincing words). Believe me, I didn’t have a choice, I learned to clean.

I’ve never found anything particularly glamorous or pleasant about cleaning chicken, peeling potatoes, washing dishes or scrubbing a toilet but they’re tasks that have to be done if I want to eat and live in a clean environment, (and I like doing both). So I try to do these things with a good attitude because, what’s the point of making myself miserable over something that has to be done?

During this summer, why don’t you surprise your parents? If you’re not your usual charming self when you have to do household chores I challenge you to try something different this summer. Assist more at home without being asked. Also, for you older teens, cook a meal for your parents to come home to instead of waiting for someone to come home and cook for you. Go ahead… I dare you, and do feel free to write in and tell me about your summer of helpfulness.

GT Jun/Aug '08

Read The Woman You're Becoming part 1 here


Denise said...

Your niece is so cute, and what a great helper.

Tracye Dukes said...

Hi Bernadine! Thanks for stopping by my blog... so glad you enjoyed :0) It is so nice to meet new friends and fellow writers through LWG. I have enjoyed your site as well and look forward to exploring your magazine. Oh yes, and I have a neice named Shakira who reminds me alot of your neice. How do you pronounce her name? She's precious!

Bless you,

Angie said...

Bernadine...I have to agree. I was the same way. My daughters were as well. But what is odd, at ANY age, I would go to my granny's house and do ANYTHING for here, from cleaning toilet, to painting the floor of the front porch...to helping in the kitchen. I even cut her grass...all w/o complaints. But I know that I complained as a teenager at home doing the same thing. But I didn't complain long, nor loud enough for mother to hear it more than once. Since mother raised us (4) kids alone, we sort of knew that she had a tough deal so I think because of that we did most (MOST) everything w/o too much complaining (or sass). Sass, would get you into a peck of trouble. This I know!
Your blog is such a neat place for teen girls to go---and LEARN!
Have a blessed day sweet friend!

eph2810 said...

To be honest with you, I didn't like to cook or clean either - I would rather play soccer or roller-skate :)
But when we are adults, we have to do things that not are our favorites, like ironing...

What a great challenge you have put out for the girls :)

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